What is Security?
According to Wikipedia, “Security is the condition of being protected against danger or loss. In the general sense, security is a concept similar to safety. The nuance between the two is an added emphasis on being protected from dangers that originate from outside”.
Let’s look at an example:
A poor, skinny, unconfident, man has a beautiful girlfriend. One day the girlfriend goes out with a handsome and wealthy, male ‘friend’. How do you think the boyfriend will feel while his girlfriend is with this other man? Insecure, right? What is he likely to do when the girlfriend comes back? Most likely he will be angry and resentful and be angry at the girlfriend. Will this help? No it will only make it worse.
So how should he resolve the issue? He needs to confront his challenge – work out to improve his physique, become financially secure and improve his self-confidence. Only then will he be able to face his insecurities and not worry when he girlfriend spends time with other men.
However financial security does not necessarily come from having money; it is more about having the skills to make money. If I give you $1,000,000 but you don’t have the skills to make money for yourself, how secure do you feel? What if you are broke but I teach you a skill that will make you money anywhere, anytime? How secure would this make you feel? Most people would go for the second option. As the old Chinese proverb says, “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime”(Lao Tzu).
So security is not about how much money you have, but about your capability to make money.
Why then do most people fail? At some point most people start making excuses –
“It’s too hard”,
“I can’t do this”,
“I’m too busy”,
“Nothing ever goes right for me”,
“I don’t have the resources to do this”,
“I’m not smart enough”.
Sound familiar? Have you ever made excuses for not doing something?
The ultimate skill you can learn in life is the ability to face your challenges. When you hear yourself making excuses just think, “What is it that is stopping me from doing this?” “What can I do to overcome this challenge?”
There are two types of people in life – those who face their challenges and those who run away from them.
What is the difference between these types of people? Well, there could be many reasons – attitude, character, background, etc, but one of the fundamental reasons simple comes down to how much you exercise your brain muscle. Like any muscle, if you don’t exercise, it becomes weaker. Insecurity is therefore directly related to the strength of the muscle you use to confront your challenges.
So how do you make this muscle stronger? Simple, like any muscle you have to exercise it – mental exercise. The more you exercise it the stronger the muscle becomes.
So next time you face a challenge in your life, don’t run away from it, don’t look for an excuse. Simple ask yourself, “What do I need to do to solve this challenge”?